Frustrating

Okay, I am going to take a moment to rant and vent about my sister. She apparently has been talking to Dad about the problems between us kids, and it feels like I am getting blamed for everything. Now that isn't what was said as far as I know but that is how it is feeling. The problems started because of Debi totally losing it when she found out that Mable was taking Mom (Grandma Kathy) to look at a nursing home in Meridian. All we were going to do is take mom to see it, just like we had the other nursing homes we checked out. But Debi blew a mental gasket, she called me at work screaming so loud at me, Kris & Nancy who work on either side of me could hear the sreaming. Of course they couldn't understand what Debi was saying, only the screaming. You can't have a conversation with Debi if she doesn't want to because she screams and yells at you, you can't get a word in edge wise. She didn't hear anything I was trying to say to her because she was so busy yelling at me. The only thing she heard was when I quietly told her to 'shut the fuck up so I could say something'! Of course, she conveniently forgets to tell people I said the last part. I finally had to hang up on her because all she was doing was screaming & yelling and I couldn't even talk. She talks/yells at you, not to you.
One frustrating thing is that Debi has lied and bad mouthed everyone for so long she can't even remember what she has said and then pretty soon she has it so twisted in her mind that she makes up stuff that was never even said or not said in the way she is telling everyone. She is a pro at twisting and minipulating and a pro at making people believe her.

"Here's the deal," "Gary says," "Just ask Rick," " Cheri and I think," "My friends think"

These are her favorite sayings and usually means she is lying and/or that is what Debi thinks but doesn't have the courage to say "I think" or "I feel"!
One thing that will really hurt the very most is if Dad & Dorothy believe the things that Debi is saying to them. They have been on the receiving end of Debi before. There were several years were Debi didn't speak to Dad & Dorothy. And if Dad & Dorothy knew the horrible things that Debi has said about them and I mean in the past 2 years or so (since the increase in income) and the really, really horrible things she has said about John. They wouldn't speak to her.
She has told me that she hates John more than once and as far as she is concerned he isn't her brother. Also that 'her friends' think John is gay and that Gary and her think that he snorts crank or coke (because of his allergies). She has also bad mouthed Dad & Dorothy saying that they got millions and now think they are better than everyone and that they are bragging about everything to Debi's friends like Polk & Reina and others. That Dorothy used her dog grooming room & equipment and then just left the mess for Debi to clean up like she was too good to clean up. Als when Debi got her horse, she went off the deep end again. Saying things about Dad/Dorothy being so jealous because she got that horse and they wanted and that it would be a cold day in hell before she would ever let Dad/Dorothy have that horse. Debi also said "besides all Dorothy would do is just lunge her horse to death, she (Dorothy) doesn't ride horses." She was pissed off because apparently Dad made a comment to the effect of it being too much horse for Debi.
She also bad mouthed Cory to my family, saying all kinds of crap that wasn't true such as Cory just dropped me off and left me at the hospital when I had food poisening. She also was saying that I used all my money for this house and Cory wasn't paying anything, which is sooo not true. Then the issue of what she said to me when he gave me my ring for Christmas. When I called and told her she said "What is it... your shut you up ring" and stuff like that. It was so hurtful, what should have been a happy event ended being upsetting and I ended up in tears.
Also for some reason, Debi has something out for Mable and I don't know what. I still haven't figured that out. When she told Rick that just the 3 of us should make funeral arrangements she means without Mable. Frankly I think all 3 spouses should be involved if they want to. Mom loves Mable, Gary and Cory very much. In fact, she thinks Gary walks on water like Rick and Cory isn't too far behind them. I wouldn't object to Gary going, but for some reason Debi doesn't want Mable included in anything.
The other thing that bothers me is that apparently she is telling Dad/Dorothy that she is doing all these things for mom when she hasn't been doing anything for quite some time. Now don't get me wrong, I don't expect a gold star or anything for taking care of mom but I don't like someone else taking credit for things they are not doing at all! The nursing home called her twice, leaving a message asking Debi if she could go w/mom to a doctor appointment because I was out of town and Debi never even had the courtesy to call them back. Hospice called her once to see if Debi could pick up some medicine for mom and she didn't call them back either. But heck, what do you expect from someone who "is too busy" to go help her mom when mom is having chest pains. I am fairly positive that Debi was with Dad & Dorothy in Caldwell when I asked her if she could go to mom's but she informed me that she was "too busy". Luckily for mom, it turned out to be a panic attack.
The whole situation is very sad and it really hurts but Debi is the one who caused it and she owes Rick, Mable and I an apology. It truly makes my heart heart with sadness to think of how Debi has become and the hurtful things she has done and said. However, I don't think everything is her fault but she needs to apologize for the things she has done to us. I've let a lot of things go over the years that Debi has said and done to me but she finally crossed the line and has just said and done too much to hurt me and other family members that I love and care for.
Okay, I've ranted now and it is late so I need to go to bed. It's a work day tomorrow! Hi Ho Hi Ho... it's off to bed I go! :-)